By Gary Small, MD, and Gigi Vorgan
Emma finally made it to the head of the line and ordered a white wine. She had to yell because the band was playing so loudly. She hated weddings, especially when she had to go alone. At 35, her parents and friends were giving up on her ever getting married, and they blamed Emma for being too choosy. But Emma knew it was really just her shyness that was holding her back.
She took a seat at table 12, her designated torture chair for the evening, and began calculating how soon she could leave. After the toasts and before the salad, an attractive man from the next table leaned over and asked Emma to dance. She avoided his eyes and shook her head no. He shrugged and asked another woman at the table.
As Emma watched them enter the dance floor, her inner voice yelled, “Idiot! He was cute and you blew it!” She reached for her third dinner roll but there was no butter left. “I should have stayed home,” Emma grumbled to herself.
Emma is one of the millions of people who suffer from excessive shyness and insecurity. Although she would have liked to be more extroverted, it just wasn’t in the cards for her, and she accepted her fate. Too bad Emma hadn’t read SNAP! Change Your Personality in 30 Days or she would have known how easily and quickly she could alter this or almost any other aspect of her personality. All she or any of us need are the right tools and motivation.
Almost everybody has one or more things about themselves they would change if they could, but most of us wouldn’t know where to start. We are too busy and set in our ways to even entertain the idea. Besides, experts have longed believed that our personalities are formed in early childhood and remain fairly intact throughout life.
Today, however, that belief has been shattered. A growing understanding of the science of personality tells us that we can change our personalities in a snap – in as little as 30 days.
Our personalities affect every area of our lives: career trajectory, success in relationships, health outcomes, and even our risk for developing dementia as we age. As a practicing psychiatrist, I have seen this method work for my patients. They have been able to alter their thinking patterns, behaviors, and feelings – the three main components of personality – and change their lives for the better.